That's a phrase borrowed from the 70s. Feeling crunchy mean you are or should be embarrassed. There's a checker at my local Safeway whose quite efficient and personable. When I first went through their check stand with my groceries, I thought they were male Goth. Dark clothes, heavy eye makeup and dark nail polish. I've know a few Goth and I thought it strange because the personality was more outgoing and upbeat than any other Goth I'd known.
Week after week, I went through their line if they were working. I noticed that the eye makeup became more subdued. I thought perhaps the management may have put a little pressure on them to not be so "in your face" about it. Then another time their long hair was pulled back on the crown of their head and held with a very flamboyant scrunchie that I though was quite feminine. And then another time they turned to the side to talk to another employee. The polite term would be "husky built" to describe them when the apron pulled to the side I didn't see evidence of the manboob that I might have expected, but a well formed female bust. After I looked for their name tag. Today, I saw it.
"June"
As I said, feeling crunchy. In my mind I'd misgendered a trans sister. I'm so glad that in all the time I've interacted with her I never mentioned her gender.
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No need to feel crunchey
You saw her as a person and not as someone who's gender was the most important thing in the world. Far too many anti trans people only see gender rather than the person going through what is often a personal hell with family and friends and any positive support can help them through what can be a very difficult time.
Samantha
If you treat me as a person
If you treat me as a person, I can and do overlook the occasional misgendering.
Though I do make it pretty clear through the way I dress, as to which gender I identify as. Even if I dress my age, I still do kind of stand out, since very few women out and about wear anything but pants, trousers, slacks or shorts. So wearing dresses that fall between the knee and the ankle, makes me a bit of an odd-ball. Using a darker or muted color palette reduces the standing out factor. And projecting a healthy dose of self-confidence by owning my own look and presentation also reduces the „sore thumb“ factor.