To be thankful for this year - and to all that I have lost. To all that WE have lost.
I have much to be thankful for. I am coming up on five years cancer free this spring, and I feel great. I am healthy, very comfortable financially, and I am finally able to relax and enjoy life without feeling driven to climb the next rung on the career ladder. Something that those who have served will understand, one is shooting at me, and just as importantly I am not having to shoot at anyone to protect my team.
The woman I love more than life itself is still with me, and for some unknown reason still seems to love me. My three sons are healthy and doing well, and for the most part everyone is happy. My first grandchild was born October 10 and she is a beautiful, healthy little girl. Our home is paid for, both of our cars are paid for, our boat is paid for, our health insurance is free……. we are debt free and very comfortable financially. My spouse and I are looking at spending the next decade (hopefully much more!) enjoying life and our family, traveling (She wants to see the parts of the world I have seen and she has never had the chance to visit - well, some of them anyway. Some of them no one wants to visit.), and doing the things we have always talked about but were too busy to do.
But I can’t help thinking about the things I have lost, the things we have lost. I have lost too many friends and comrades; the ones I lost in the service will always haunt me. I am remembering the friends I have lost, including the ones that we have lost here on this site. The people who I thought were my friends, and the ones who claimed to be my family, but disappeared when I transitioned. Even though they proved they never really cared about me, I still miss them.
But what bothers me most are the things that we all have lost. The rights we have lost, that are being eroded day after day by those in elected office. The innocence which our whole society has lost, as ignorance and prejudice runs rampant through our country and through our government. The opportunities which our country is losing with every person who is illegally pulled off our streets and incarcerated, every person who is torn from their homes and shipped to God knows where. I have lost the feeling of pride I used to have when I showed my passport, as what it means to be an American has changed in the eyes of much of the world.
Yes, I have much to be thankful for - but I can’t help hoping that I will have even more to be thankful for after next year’s election cycle!
As we all celebrate the holiday today, hopefully with family and friends, I ask that everyone stay strong. We must stand up for what we believe in, we must support each other, and we must be there for those who are oppressed or in need. And we must vote to protect our rights, our society, next year - and every year!



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I am thankful
Though I don’t know how we come back from this darkness, I know we have come back before. I am thankful for every soul that has not bent the knee; so long as they stand — so long as we stand — hope remains.
— Emma
“It is not what goes into the mouth…….”
“That defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.” - Matthew 15:11.
I am not truly a religious person, but occasionally I find a snippet of truth amongst the writings of the Bible, this being a case in point. However, even this saying is only true to a certain point, for that which we absorb in childhood informs our opinions later in life. If we poison our children with prejudices and bigotry, if we teach them falsehoods and lies, then we truly reap that which we sow.
But, it is that which spews forth from the mouths of the ignorant bigots in power. and the craven sycophants who surround them, which defiles our country.
As a field grade officer in the US Navy, I swore an oath “to support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic.” I also swore, “that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; that I take this obligation freely, without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion; and that I will well and faithfully discharge the duties of the office on which I am about to enter.” This oath, coupled with the UCMJ (the Uniform Code of Military Justice), obligates me to follow the laws and regulations outlined within it.
The UCMJ outlines every service member’s obligation to carry out lawful orders, and the manual for courts-martial further expands on the subject, with the point boiling down to the fact that every service member has an obligation to disobey unlawful orders. There is no nuance to it — if any service member receives an order that is unlawful, they must refuse to execute it. If not, they are just as complicit in the illegality of it as the person who ordered them to do it. Every time I raised my right hand, I was reminding myself, regardless of how small or minimal I felt my individual contributions to the military may have been, that, ultimately, regardless of clime or place, as the Marines like to say, I was obligated to uphold the values and principles of our nation through my service to our country.
It is inherent in every service member’s oath that they will, when presented with an unlawful order, disobey it. It is not just an assumption, but a requirement. The most significant role, however, belongs to the leaders, whether they are commissioned, non-commissioned, or warrant officers. The officers appointed over our most junior enlisted service members have a duty to refuse unlawful orders not just for inarguable legal, ethical, and moral reasons, but also to ensure that the most junior service members they lead are not left to make that call. As officers, we have a moral duty to protect our sailors, our Marines, and our soldiers from any illegal order issued by those above us - whether military or civilian.
The obligation to refuse unlawful orders does not change depending on where you are. Whether you are operating domestically or abroad, the obligations and requirements of the oath and the UCMJ remain the same. Whether you are an active-duty Naval officer on a ship in the Caribbean or a National Guard member in Washington DC, it remains the same. There is no quibbling, no prevarication, your oath and the UCMJ require that you refuse ALL unlawful orders, no matter how high their origin. Just as you are required to obey the lawful orders of those appointed above you, you are obligated to refuse any and all illegal orders.
I mention this to shed light on just how craven our current President and his administration have become. Six brave Democratic members of Congress speak out, simply quoting the UCMJ regulations regarding the requirement to refuse to obey illegal orders, and Trump accuses them of sedition and traitorous activity. There was no traitorous or seditious action on their part; rather, a simple reminder of the oath taken by every single member of the US Military. And now we have the FBI under Patel probing their activities, and the Pentagon under Hegseth threatening to recall Mark Kelly to active duty for court-marshal proceedings.
These words, these actions, this is the proof of what defiles a man. Not the brave actions of Kelly and his compatriots, but rather the craven threats of Trump and his ilk.
D. Eden
“Hier stehe ich; ich kann nicht anders. Gott helfe mir.”
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
Defending the Constitution
It's too bad that most of Congress has decided not to obey their oath to defend the Constitution.
Michelle B
Rugar's new gun
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin ein femininer Mann
Perhaps the only thing more useless than a gun that won’t fire….
Is a Congress that abdicates its responsibility. When staying in office becomes more important than doing what is right, then they no longer deserve to hold the offices they occupy.
D. Eden
“Hier stehe ich; ich kann nicht anders. Gott helfe mir.”
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
I think that the point
Both the gun and congress are useless. However the gun does have one redeeming quality; it can be used as a paper weight.
Not so congress.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin ein femininer Mann