Memories of My Brother
My brother is slowly losing his memories, so I thought I would save a few that we share
1: When we moved to Calgary from Germany, the first place we lived in had a basement, and we had a ping pong table down there. Very quickly, Mike became quite skilled, to the point we started thinking up handicaps so games between us could be slightly competitive.
2: When Mike came home from the Christian camp having converted, I witnessed first hand the dramatic change. He had gone to the camp angry, and came home at peace. I vowed to find out what he had gained, and get some for myself, and thus became a Christian as well.
3: As kids, Mike was my protector, and I needed one. My inability to keep my mouth shut got me into trouble often, and he felt obligated to keep me from getting too hurt.
4: Mike is a talented musician, as he proved when he wrote a song for my wedding, and played it as Sharon walked down the aisle.
5: Mike saved my life in Denver. I had lost my temper, and went after Ken with an axe, but he stopped me. And when I had dropped the axe, and Ken picked it up about to swing at me, Mike drop-kicked him.
6: When we first moved to Edmonton, Mike and I took a walk, and found a plushie bull - and he proceeded to make a bunch of bull related puns till my sides ached from laughing.
9: When I blew up my marriage and put our home in danger of being repossessed, Mike and Carol stepped up to help me straighten out the mess.
10: When Mom and I couldn't find a place to live, Mike and Carol took us in
Honestly, even though I don't have his disease, I cant even remember all the times he has been there for me. But I wanted to share a few of them while both of us could remember .
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Thanks for sharing
It sounds like he was a wonderful brother.
My sister had a stroke and her mind is declining. Not Alzheimer's (I think). But she is forgets what she was just doing and the names of common things. And she has physical problems.
We used to have very animated discussions when we were kids. She is 18 months younger than me.
But I'm very glad when I came out to her 2 years ago, she told me, "you gotta do what you gotta do!"
I've made four visits to her since then as myself and will make as many more as I can afford and manage.
All the best!
Gillian Cairns
visit her as often as you can
huggles, and thanks for the comment!
Family ties
You are so right, Dotty, those memories tie us together as families.
I could, maybe I should, write a list of the lovely things my big sister did for me as we were growing up. Yes, and they did involve hand be downs, but there was so much more. There was a song, ( Sister Sledge?) some time in the late seventies or early eighties, called "We are family" . Lou is not a fan of disco, but she used to turn it up on the radio and dance with me.
I wish you and your brother all the well in the world.
Lucy xx
"Lately it occurs to me..
what a long strange trip its been."
you should write the list
for yourself, or to share with us!
huggles, hon!
Beautiful Memories
They say we die twice - once when our heart stops for the last time and the second time when who we were and what we did has been forgotten. Although your brother may lose memories of his past, you and the family will remember the times together fondly and lovingly and that's what brings us comfort and supports us while we support those who cannot remember. We all hope to live long. healthy and happy lives right up to the last breath but that is not always the passing that is to be ours. Whether that is the will of God or just our random misfortune we are not qualified to say but I know which reason I'd prefer! Stay strong and my thoughts are with you and your brother.
Hugs!
Suzi
thanks, Suzi
huggles!
Pure Dorothy
Only someone as kind-hearted as you would have written and shared this. He is one hell of a brother and his goodness deserves to be remembered.
if I am kind hearted
He helped shape me that way.
huggles, Joannne!
Good memories
It took me years to understand the values of photographs. They help us remember the details of an event. Whether it was a party or just an incident, a picture can bring it back.I loved my uncle. He was one of those who could do it all. For some reason I had my box camera in my hand one evening when Aunt and Uncle visited us. He picked up our dog (about 40 pounds) and cradled him. I took a picture; the print is in a box somewhere. That particular evening is a blur but that instant, the faces of uncle and dog, help bring that moment of 1968 back to mind.
Lovely words you've written, I hope you write many more down.
Blessings,
Kay
Thanks to my sister in law, I have lots of pictures
including some cute ones of me and my brother as little kids.
thanks for the comment, huggles!
Talking about memories
I am now dealing with my third close Alzheimer's relationship, my darling wife of 31 years. I was given some good advice many years ago when dealing with my father's illness. Talk with them about shared memories distant and recent. Over and over again. This will help them retain those memories more readily. I have done that especially with my wife and it works. The look of recognition on her face when a memory connects is so wonderful to see. Repetition is the key. Huggles to you.
Pippa NewHouse
thanks for the advice
I do that now sometimes, but maybe I should do it more intentionally.
huggles!
Thank you
Thank you for sharing this, Dot. Beautiful.
— Emma
thank you for commenting, Emma
huggles!
Thank you.
What a precious sister you are!
Love, Andrea Lena
I have been blessed in most of the relationships in my life
huggles, Drea!